December 29, 2014

cOnFeW'zeD !!!!

This is what life has so far shown to a good friend of mine. Its not a fantasy story written out of nowhere, but a real incident happened in his life.
He never knew what a relation is? He never knew what LOVE is? He never believed in them, and whenever he listens about any relation or love, he just feels like how foolish people are. Everything in this world is like- ‘give and take’ and there is no space for real emotion and people are obvious hypocrites covering up with the words like love. 
To begin with, It all started slowly. He doesn't know what has actually happened to him. But it happened. He stepped into the world of destruction & illusion called Love. The initial phase was kinda magical. 

It was the best dream happened to him but when the truth hits you, it hits you hard. Your Stomach tightens up. Your chest hurts and you don’t feel like talking, eating or sleeping. He spends most of the time away from her thinking about her, when he knows that she hardly thinks about him. He spend endless hours analyzing all the conversations they had and how these all converted into a unforgettable pain and drama coz it’s really hard to forget someone who gave so much to remember. 
Even though he know he was at zenith of his stupidity for being in love with a girl who no longer would be his, but still Like they say, love makes you do crazy things that you would never do normally.

After she left him, he had to face a series of unfortunate events in a lonely place. He was broken; he battled severe depression, the worst episode he ever had. He stopped eating altogether for days on end. He dreaded times when he would be alone which nearly drove him crazy. He inflicted pain physically, hoping the physical pain would offset the mental one. I can’t even begin to imagine that he deserted himself from everyone. He wanders everywhere he could, Rotting away in misery! In the process, he went out of his mind and entered into the realm of confusion, where he couldn't decide what to do, what is good, what is bad, what is right and what is wrong.
In the beginning of his grief he had so much anger towards her, and because she was not showing remorse, he wanted to find ways to punish her so that she would be in the same pain that he was.
I guess he have reached a point where he realized that nothing makes him happy. Being either loaded with work or growing career or pals or family or any other thing that could amaze his brain, there's practically nothing that gonna make him happy. It all became a festering wound that is now hurting him from within.

He finally realized that the intensity he deals with his emotions and relationships aren’t the same for others. It’s just a passing phase for others. They slip in and out of relationships. His feelings and emotions are all “over” reactions to situations. People who deal with emotions casually come up in life. Those who take everything to heart, suffer. It was just so easy for few to say BYE. But it became so difficult for others to deal with it.
It’s a world of destruction. Once you stepped into its realm, then it will never let you in peace. A series of unpleasant things encounter... you can neither show up how bad you feel nor be happy by letting it go.. you will enter into the state of mental confusion, “u feel like they were the best and the worst thing happened in your life”, “you cry and smile all together”, “you end up loving and hating them at the same time”.. A state which is hard to explain in words...  That’s where you lose all the faith in love

 He had to somehow overcome the feeling of betrayal. But unfortunately, this experience reinforced his first important lesson in love and life- U R all by yourself; No one stays in your Life forever. Sometimes you need to let things go, “there’s nothing called relationship, everything is a need, they just needed someone and they found you, gullible”. Love, it’s a bullshit phase. “You’re with me today, tomorrow may be someone else.” 

So what is the moral of the story ? 

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over.” 


P.S. : Im Confused, on how the narration should go in here. The story in mind was something but narration went the emotional way... A total mess up....

December 27, 2014

Why not Happy Christmas and Merry New Year?

It's all about co-location of how these words go. 'Merry' often goes with 'Christmas' and 'Happy' often goes with 'New Year'. If you switch them around they would not be wrong. It just wouldn't sound suitable. In fact in a movie called 'Coming to America,' Eddie Murphy, an African prince who is new to America, shouts 'Merry New Year!' This scene is funny as it sounds weird and hilarious.  

Christmas is a present-tense event, existing for a relatively short period of time--24 hours. The new year is a future-tense on-going reality, which is not experienced all at once.

The term merry is used to describe emotions, or state-of-being only. Happy on the other hand can be used to describe emotions, a state-of-being, or a NOUN.

Thus when you wish someone a merry Christmas, you are wishing that their emotions or state-of-being be merry all day. The emphasis is on the state of being. (Usually because you are spending time with family, and experiences traditions etc).

Conversely, when you wish someone a Happy New Year, you are wishing that their YEAR be good. The emphasis is on the YEAR. (If the year's events are good, the person could then also experience happiness.)

happy
   /ˈhæpi/
–adjective, -pi⋅er, -pi⋅est.
1. enjoying or showing or marked by joy or pleasure; "a happy smile"; "spent many happy days on the beach"; "a happy marriage"

merry
   /ˈmɛri/
–adjective, mer⋅ri⋅er, mer⋅ri⋅est.
1. full of cheerfulness or gaiety; joyous in disposition or spirit: a merry little man.

August 23, 2012

An Erstwhile thoughts

Whenever i see the erstwhile Me,  some things i wish i had known way-back somewhere in starting out of my life. I am now almost 25 years old and i can't change the past; Can i change things now, I'm not sure... Though i'm not a big believer of regrets, i am posting this so that i could hover in the past to know the things which i should have known them when i was graduating from my college and starting out an adult life...

1. Prodigal spending of money:  I guess, I Tried my level best to squander all the money i had.... Many a times, I used to buy stuff which i never wanted, may be just to show off... Often spend lavishly to buy something which apparently is not at all worth the money... Taking out my car unnecessarily so that it could help me impress a girl / stranger... 
I need to think over my spending's, whether its worth the money i spent.. Spending money for impressing an stranger rather than yourself will obviously put me at zenith of stupidity.

2. Eating a lot of Junk food: Frankly speaking, i was a Glutton & devoured a hell lot of scrap which you see near the roadsides. Often Partying without any occasions or events became a routine. Those days i never thought of health and physical appearance but later i understood that i was constantly adding up my weight and my attire need an extra size to keep-up. Ahh, guess that if someone showed me my after-picture before, would have helped me not gain this additional pounds.
But Now i realized that i spend a hell lot of money on food, a pure junk. Started cooking food and its the best thing i can do as its interesting and most of all its the best healthy diet to have. Now on my myth is "Mortify the Outside food".

3. Investments for the future: Hmm, I used to spend money frivolously. Though i used to plan savings for my near future but never ever made a diligence effort for it. Always lack bucks when i had to buy something worthy. Feels lament when i get this query of how much I could have invested for all these years? From now -on i need to plan properly about the INVESTMENTS.

4. Forget the Drama. Focus on being Happy: There were things that have happened to me which seems like the end of the world. These things were bad, which actually fills up in head and blow up so that they become a major drama. It caused me depressed from time to time. Drama made my life harder. It just complicates things: making little things more complex and used to neglect the bigger things which matters. What a waste of time. It just aids tension, depression, stress, fear, anger, pessimism, failure  from within.
I wish that i could have realized that there's no need to get overly emotional and a little breathe and serenity could have made the situations a lot better. Could have skipped all the moping by being happy, pursuing things from fresh and look it as a way to reinvent myself... Just Annihilate Drama by staying HAPPY.

5. Always Nodding Head & saying 'YES': I won't go into details but its suffice to say that i had bad experiences. Always nodding and accepting things makes the situation a little prosperous for that moment, but ultimately i had to suffer to keep-up those things. After-all I can't Fix Everything by Nodding...
I need to be Smart enough in making decisions and should stop wiggling in making decisions else it will affect one's personality.

6. Make up time for Avocations: I love photography, read novels and do blogging. With college life and laziness i soon realized that there weren't enough hours in a day. I need to make those hours and show some respect towards my hobbies. I need to keep aside a block of work and cut away the stuff which eats away my life and don't let anything interfere with that work. I can absolutely guarantee that Hobbies make u feel good to live a LIFE lively.

7. Friends and Family: The foremost essential thing that matters in Life is Friends and Family. But there were many hostile situations with my closed ones in the past which could have been completely avoided with some proper humor and common-sense via a little intellect and understanding.
I wish i could have spend more time and could have added more value to all my friends and my family. After-all,  No one in this world is too Bad to deserve hatred. It requires thinking from their perspective, emphasizing their views and ofcourse need to cut out Ego and practice forgiveness... May be all that's not an skill that you may get from book reading.
Friends and Family makes Life Invigorating and add Charm in it. Never Ever lose them and become a JERK.

8. TV and FB: All that time you spend watching TV is a huge, huge waste of time. I don't know how much TV i have watched over the years, its just a crap-load. Hours, days and weeks I'll never have back. 
These days even addicted to Facebook, though its good to be social and share information but it just eats away all the time you have. Wasted hours in Facebook/Orkut/Twitter, which is apparently not worthy of spending all that time. Time is something you'll never get back.
It's better that I carry a timer while networking and Watch TV and just find out the time i spend in these crap. The result gonna DAZZLE me for sure.

9. Time Management: I have a disease called "Lack of Time Management". There doesn't exist a Word called 'In-Time' in my dictionary. I have been always Late to almost all the activities I do. I love to procrastinate the things. Its just so inherent and almost unavoidable. Guess i need to face a series of regretful experiences before i sort out a solution for it.

10. Being Smart is not Smart enough: The act of being smart just brings out dumbness in life. It all started in my high school and graduation days where I started "One day batting". In the act of  being smart i mostly enjoyed bunking all the classes, never used to open the books, don't even bother about what the syllabus is, actually don't even know the subjects I had in that semester, until a day comes and what not, its just before the day of exam. Though it had some satisfactory results in the initial stages which lead me to start criticizing that one doesn't need to study all the time for his academics instead 'A Night-out stand' is more than enough to get good grades. But this just carried away. Later i had to compromise with the grades, felt inferior to others, was frivolous with all the opportunities i had.
I should have learn the act of perceiving the consequences at that time. Have to Agree that "Hard Work Really Pays Off".

Atleast Realized that something needs to be modified in me. Now i can yell-out that i have gained some handsome experience in Life ....

P.S. No Regrets with the past. I'm doing great & Very much Happy for whatever I am now..

August 11, 2012

Life is full of problems


Sometimes life gets so miserable that you dont even find a person to share your feelings.When you dont have anything to share and life is cool then you find lot of people around.You get many sms,many calls for no reason.You find many people when you sign in yahoo or gtalk.But when life is hard to live,you dont find anyone online even if u wait for a whole day.No sms,no calls.Even der wont be any replies if u msg them.You will be killing yourself.You will be searching for some person to show all your anger.And there comes the GOD.Blame him for everything.If anything bad happens,you throw questions on god "why did u do like this?like that?....." If anything good happens,U praise him "thank you god,thanks a lot,i know u will be der wit me" .......Many say life shares both the phases.Good after bad and Bad after good.Why is it so?Why is life not always happy?Many say
"if anything bad happens,you just think that god is testing you"
...but why is he testing?Does he feels happy when we are suffering?
"No he believes that you can come out of that phase by yourself"
.....Oh when he believes us,then where is the matter of testing?When he knows that anyways we are going to solve our problems..then why is he creating problems?
"He wants us to know the way to solve problems"
Why?Is he writing a book on "How to solve the problems of life" ???

I guess you might have understood by now that i am not finding any person to show my anger,so i am taking my revenge on god(the creator of the problems)

August 7, 2012

Cogitation of CC and BCC in Email

Whenever i compose an email, apart from the To: field, i see this CC: field and BCC: field too to write the email addresses of the recipients....

The cogitation is carried out by presuming that the E-mail is sent to multiple persons.....

To: field
It is to write the email addresses of the recipients..
The email ID's which are written in this field can be viewed by all the other recipients of that email...... 

Cc: field
CC-shorter version of 'Carbon Copy'...
It is to send the Carbon copy of the message to the recipients.....
The email addresses which are written in this field can be viewed by all the other recipients of that email......

Bcc: field
BCC-shorter version of 'Blind Carbon Copy'...
The Email Id's typed here cannot be viewed by other recipients who get that mail....

For eg. if the header of the E-Mail contains the following addresses
TO: kajol@gmail.com, sonalibendre@gmail.com, mahesh@yahoo.com
CC: prabhas@hotmail.com, pavankalyan@rediffmail.com, anushka@gmail.com
BCC: sharukhkhan@hotmail.com, amirkhan@gmail.com, salmankhan@yahoo.com

kajol (same with sonalibendre and mahesh) can see the email Id's stated in To and CC field.... but cannot see the email Id's typed in the BCC field viz. sharukhkhan, amirkhan and salmankhan... 

prabhas (same with pavankalyan and anushka) can see all the email Id's stated in the TO and CC field but cannot view the email addresses of the recipients typed in the BCC field  viz. sharukhkhan, amirkhan and salmankhan....

here kajol, sonalibendre, mahesh, prabhas, pavankalyan, anushka will never ever know that the mail has even been sent to (sharukh, amir, salman) khans...

sharukhkhan can see all the email Id's entered in the To and CC field but cannot see the email addresses of other recipients in the BCC field viz, amirkhan and salmankhan....
amirkhan will not be able to view the email addresses of sharukhkhan and salmankhan... but can look-at all the email addresses stated in the To and CC field..
salmankhan will not be able to view the email addresses of sharukhkhan and amirkhan... but can look-at all the email addresses stated in the To and CC field....

So while sending E-mail to Multiple Mates, to maintain secrecy of Email Id's of your VIP and VVIP friends, type their email id's in the BCC field.... else if u type them in either To or Cc field it will be disclosed to the other VP mates..... BEWARE!!! ;)

July 18, 2012

Is premium Fuel really useful??

Today i saw two grades of petrol in the petroleum bunk and was wondering why is this premium fuel used for??? Do premium fuel really improves the power and does it actually increases the mileage of the car??

Again after googling it, I found that

The grades in fuels is the content of the octane actually (octane rating)... The regular fuel has a lower octane rate of about 87  whereas the Premium fuel has a slightly higher octane rate of about 91 or 92.... 

The octane rating has nothing to do with quality of the fuel other than the antiknock quality.... 

Now you might be thinking what is this anti-knocking behavior: 
Actually during the normal combustion, the fuel-air mixture needs to be ignited only during the timed spark... but sometimes the unburned gases gets heated up and causes the fire either before or after the timed spark which leads to multiple explosions and thereby causing KNOCK... This irregular and recurrent knocks causes trouble such as repeated jerks, over-stressing of engine and loss of power.... 

So, if your car doesn't cause any knocking with the ordinary regular fuel, there is no use of buying a fuel with higher octane rating.....

Buying Extra octane doesn't necessarily improves the 1.Car mileage 2.Smooth starting of the engine 3.More life to the car engine 4.provide more power... Its just an misconception that Premium fuel is better than the regular ordinary fuel as you pay more... 

So its better to save some bucks by using an ordinary fuel if your car works fine with it.... SAVE MONEY :)

July 12, 2012

Change


I am not the same. I am not the one i used to be. Bcoz i don't have the people around me who made me what i was, sometime back. I dont have the people around me who constructed my past. The people around me now are constructing my present, but i miss terribly the 'old' me. The way i was is not the same the way i am. Circumstances change, people change and I change. These days, people change faster than the climate changes. I have the same set of people who were in my past, but i dont love them as earlier, may be because they don't value me and may be thats y i don't value them.
STOP!! Enough is enough.I don't want my brain to strain.I don't want to think of people who were not mine. I would accept the people the way they are now. I am happy with the people around me who are constructing my present.

P.S : It was written out of frustration long time back but had no time for posting it on the blog. So posting it now.