December 29, 2014

cOnFeW'zeD !!!!

This is what life has so far shown to a good friend of mine. Its not a fantasy story written out of nowhere, but a real incident happened in his life.
He never knew what a relation is? He never knew what LOVE is? He never believed in them, and whenever he listens about any relation or love, he just feels like how foolish people are. Everything in this world is like- ‘give and take’ and there is no space for real emotion and people are obvious hypocrites covering up with the words like love. 
To begin with, It all started slowly. He doesn't know what has actually happened to him. But it happened. He stepped into the world of destruction & illusion called Love. The initial phase was kinda magical. 

It was the best dream happened to him but when the truth hits you, it hits you hard. Your Stomach tightens up. Your chest hurts and you don’t feel like talking, eating or sleeping. He spends most of the time away from her thinking about her, when he knows that she hardly thinks about him. He spend endless hours analyzing all the conversations they had and how these all converted into a unforgettable pain and drama coz it’s really hard to forget someone who gave so much to remember. 
Even though he know he was at zenith of his stupidity for being in love with a girl who no longer would be his, but still Like they say, love makes you do crazy things that you would never do normally.

After she left him, he had to face a series of unfortunate events in a lonely place. He was broken; he battled severe depression, the worst episode he ever had. He stopped eating altogether for days on end. He dreaded times when he would be alone which nearly drove him crazy. He inflicted pain physically, hoping the physical pain would offset the mental one. I can’t even begin to imagine that he deserted himself from everyone. He wanders everywhere he could, Rotting away in misery! In the process, he went out of his mind and entered into the realm of confusion, where he couldn't decide what to do, what is good, what is bad, what is right and what is wrong.
In the beginning of his grief he had so much anger towards her, and because she was not showing remorse, he wanted to find ways to punish her so that she would be in the same pain that he was.
I guess he have reached a point where he realized that nothing makes him happy. Being either loaded with work or growing career or pals or family or any other thing that could amaze his brain, there's practically nothing that gonna make him happy. It all became a festering wound that is now hurting him from within.

He finally realized that the intensity he deals with his emotions and relationships aren’t the same for others. It’s just a passing phase for others. They slip in and out of relationships. His feelings and emotions are all “over” reactions to situations. People who deal with emotions casually come up in life. Those who take everything to heart, suffer. It was just so easy for few to say BYE. But it became so difficult for others to deal with it.
It’s a world of destruction. Once you stepped into its realm, then it will never let you in peace. A series of unpleasant things encounter... you can neither show up how bad you feel nor be happy by letting it go.. you will enter into the state of mental confusion, “u feel like they were the best and the worst thing happened in your life”, “you cry and smile all together”, “you end up loving and hating them at the same time”.. A state which is hard to explain in words...  That’s where you lose all the faith in love

 He had to somehow overcome the feeling of betrayal. But unfortunately, this experience reinforced his first important lesson in love and life- U R all by yourself; No one stays in your Life forever. Sometimes you need to let things go, “there’s nothing called relationship, everything is a need, they just needed someone and they found you, gullible”. Love, it’s a bullshit phase. “You’re with me today, tomorrow may be someone else.” 

So what is the moral of the story ? 

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over.” 


P.S. : Im Confused, on how the narration should go in here. The story in mind was something but narration went the emotional way... A total mess up....

December 27, 2014

Why not Happy Christmas and Merry New Year?

It's all about co-location of how these words go. 'Merry' often goes with 'Christmas' and 'Happy' often goes with 'New Year'. If you switch them around they would not be wrong. It just wouldn't sound suitable. In fact in a movie called 'Coming to America,' Eddie Murphy, an African prince who is new to America, shouts 'Merry New Year!' This scene is funny as it sounds weird and hilarious.  

Christmas is a present-tense event, existing for a relatively short period of time--24 hours. The new year is a future-tense on-going reality, which is not experienced all at once.

The term merry is used to describe emotions, or state-of-being only. Happy on the other hand can be used to describe emotions, a state-of-being, or a NOUN.

Thus when you wish someone a merry Christmas, you are wishing that their emotions or state-of-being be merry all day. The emphasis is on the state of being. (Usually because you are spending time with family, and experiences traditions etc).

Conversely, when you wish someone a Happy New Year, you are wishing that their YEAR be good. The emphasis is on the YEAR. (If the year's events are good, the person could then also experience happiness.)

happy
   /ˈhæpi/
–adjective, -pi⋅er, -pi⋅est.
1. enjoying or showing or marked by joy or pleasure; "a happy smile"; "spent many happy days on the beach"; "a happy marriage"

merry
   /ˈmɛri/
–adjective, mer⋅ri⋅er, mer⋅ri⋅est.
1. full of cheerfulness or gaiety; joyous in disposition or spirit: a merry little man.